It’s weird how we allow the stereotypes and the opinions of others to be the truth for our lives. It doesn’t just stop with the usual stereotypes (too many to get into on this post). But it also enters into your relationships too; * once you get married you can kiss your S. E. X. Life goodbye * Oh you have kids? You and your partner will never have a moment alone again * You want to hang with your partner instead of coming out with us? You’re so whipped • Did you ever stop and think that maybe your intimate life isn’t changing because of your age, marital status or because you have kids, I know that was my problem. “This is just the way it is” “everyone says it comes to a grinding halt once you have kids”. I never once stopped to look at how my participation in our relationship had changed. I stopped treating her like a queen, and started treating her like a mother (which is what she was right?). But I never realized that she still wanted to feel attractive and S. E. X. Y. And I wasn’t delivering that. • Where in your relationship have you stopped doing the little things that will help your partner desire you again? Where have you slipped into mundane and not given them a reason to want to be intimate with you? Remember for us S. E. X. Is a necessary aspect to the relationship (and we are ready at the drop of a hat!), but to our partners it’s the little things that lead up to them wanting to: * Hold their hand while taking a walk * Talk to them (and actually listen) * Tell them how amazing they look * Take them on a special date (with no strings attached) * Focus your attention on them at least once a day • Doing these things will lead up to a more fun time in the bedroom. But remember it won’t happen right away, you need to make several deposits in the intimacy bank (you have been in overdraft for a long time) before that connection will come back. And once it does continue to make those deposits, everyday, not just the days that you want some excitement!
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